Sensate Focus

Creating deeper intimacy in a relationship is an ongoing process that requires communication, trust, and a willingness to be vulnerable with your partner. One powerful tool that can help couples deepen their connection is called sensate focus.

Sensate focus is a technique developed by sex therapists Masters and Johnson that involves exploring touch and sensation without the pressure of sexual performance or goals. By focusing on the physical sensations of touch and pleasure, couples can learn to connect on a deeper level and develop more intimacy in their relationship.

Here are some steps to try sensate focus with your partner:

1. Find a comfortable and private space where you can both relax and focus on each other without distractions.

2. Start with non-sexual touch, such as holding hands or giving each other a massage. Focus on the sensation of touch and the pleasure it brings, rather than any sexual arousal.

3. Gradually progress to more intimate touch, such as kissing and caressing. Again, focus on the physical sensations and pleasure rather than any goal or expectation.

4. Experiment with different types of touch, such as light strokes, firm pressure, or tickling. Pay attention to what feels good and pleasurable for both you and your partner.

5. As you become more comfortable with sensate focus, you can gradually introduce sexual touch and exploration. But continue to focus on the physical sensations and pleasure rather than any goal or expectation.

Sensate focus can be a powerful tool for creating deeper intimacy in a relationship. It allows couples to explore touch and pleasure without the pressure of sexual performance or goals, which can help to reduce anxiety and build trust. By focusing on the physical sensations and pleasure, couples can develop a deeper connection and intimacy with each other. Give it a try with your partner and see how it can transform your relationship.